. Ask MetaFilter is a question and answer site that covers nearly any question on earth, where members help each other solve problems. The answer to #2 in this case, I would say, is also "yes": I'd say it's pretty unsurprising to feel upset/slighted when a person you've been with for years gets engaged to someone else. "As much as I'd like to continue being in a relationship with you, I’ve felt disrespected by you at serious points in our relationship. I sent a email I regretted once, when an ex moved on. We have exchanged less than 10 emails since things ended.My husband's ex-girlfriend threw a pretty childish fit when she found out about our engagement through a means that she didn't deem personal enough. In fact, he didn't create the situation where your GENUINE best wishes sounded tinny to him, because of the strain of the situation between you. I posted this question after I already emailed him a response. The fact that it happened soon, the fact that you just heard about it my email, it's really understandable that those factors would compound those feelings. Basically, letting the news be the news factually, without interjecting emotions into it (such as you might hear in the tone of his voice, or he might hear in yours when you respond. Here are 13 signs and if you identify with them please know that he does not respect you and definitely does not deserve you. One way to look at it is that by e-mailing you, he didn't back you into the corner of having to squeak out "Congratulations" while your inner voice was screaming "WHAT THE FUCK." You have my permission to wallow in your hurt feelings privately if you want, but do not make a big fuss over this.
The inevitable distance between two people in love, the restless neediness of love. This is definitely a sign that your partner is not supportive and probably disrespects you.Whenever you are in a conversation with him you give him your entire attention, and you expect him to extend the same courtesy, you naturally expect .him to pay attention to you. But really what's bothering isn't the email. In fact, the moment It’s that excited feeling when two compatible people are getting to know each other and want to spend every minute together. Whether you are married or just dating, here are 8 of the worst mistakes you can make in your relationship: 1) You take an all or nothing approach when it comes to conflict. He may not have come up with a least worst solution but there where no great outs for him. God knows I have and I felt the same exact way afterward because it was just me lashing out.
Feeling disrespected in a relationship is absolutely a recipe for disaster.
I personally didn't talk to my ex for a year after the relationship ended.
I was the recipient of a mass text from my ex fiance announcing proudly that he was going to be a father.
And he didn't push you into trying to make "I'm so happy for you" sound like a genuine sentiment instead of mechanical, or, worse, sarcastic. But no, he didn't You have the right to be upset but at the same time you don't necessarily deserve any particular flavor of his attention. We both agreed that we would do our best to maintain a friendship, as we had been good friends before we entered into a relationship. Why couldn't he just email her (or let her find out as the news trickled out via mutual friends)? However, if your man disrespects you, then you will feel the exact opposite.
(In fact, if he'd emailed me I could have had my irrational reaction in private rather than in front of him, so it may have even been worse. When a breakdown in this trust occurs, whether through error, misjudgment, or anger, people are left feeling slighted, hurt, or betrayed, and the relationship and the organization of which it …
Sure, sending him that email was not awesome, but we've all done lots of not awesome things where exes are concerned.You're not ready to be friends with him yet (that is why you had a hurt reaction). He disregards your thoughts and opinions constantly to the point you start thinking they have no merit. It was kind of a tacky thing to do under the circumstances.You can be upset about whatever you want. You are human, which means you make mistakes. It sounds like you're actually upset about the news itself, but you're looking for something narrower to be upset about, so you're focusing on the Definitely don't beat yourself up. Would you be upset if any of your other friends had done the same?At least you didn't find out over Facebook from the person he got engaged to. Take a deep breath. But it's probable that you would have found something to hate about how he told you, because you're not over him. This is his choice and his choice of communication. He's your ex and though you may remain friends for the rest of your lives you will never be as close as you once were. Have you guys been communicating outside of this?No. Your partner thinks of himself as supreme and considers you to be inferior to him. So be clear and be polite and he may actually listen… unless he’s a disrespectful twatForgot i also meant to pose a question, just curious if there was any advice available for when it is the woman and not the man being disrespectful?Bonobology.com is the couple-relationship destination for Indians everywhere! It was simply phrased poorly and in a rather dry, patronizing tone. We've all done what you did. You have no say in what he does/says and how he says it. You already emailed him an apology and I would leave it at that -- and I mean, don't try to be friends now.